Be my Bridesmaid? Things to Consider Before Saying "I Do"

Nothing is more honorable than standing beside the bride as she says “I do” to her beloved husband; however, there are numerous things to consider before saying “I do” to becoming a bridesmaid. Being a bridesmaid is similar to having a part time job, and it will cost you both your time and money. Even though being part of a bridal party is rewarding and fun, here are your top concerns when deciding if you can take on such responsibility.


When agreeing to be a bridesmaid, it is expected that your wallet will feel some of the pressure. Between buying a bridesmaid dress, contributing to the bridal shower and bachelorette party, and possibly paying to get pampered the day of the wedding (hair and nails), it’s not a cheap journey. 

As a bridesmaid, it is expected that you attend the necessary wedding-related events, such as helping the bride pick out her dress, engagement party, the bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc. If you live far away, it is understandable to miss some events, but you should still expect to spend some time helping the bride and other bridesmaids plan.

Although you are part of the bride tribe, the big day is all about the bride, not the bridesmaids. With that being said, if you pick out a bridesmaid dress you absolutely love but the bride doesn’t agree with the style or color, or you pick a venue and the bride disagrees, be prepared to hear her say “no.” Although (hopefully) not every bride is a bridezilla, it is important to remember to listen to the bride, as it is her special day and wants everything to be a certain way.